One of the most important elements of having a great relationship with your child is enjoying being with each other. After all, how can you be close if all your time together is taken up with discipline, chores and homework? Many parents tell me that there is no time for fun. My response to them […]
One sure fire way to invite a debate or more likely a verbal battle is to ask your child a question when you want them to do something.
It usually goes something like this:
Your child is watching TV or is on the computer and it’s almost bedtime. You want him/her to take a bath before it […]
It is extremely important that we listen to our children. It validates them. Meaning, listening to them lets them know that what they have to say is important. That they are important as a person.
However, listening to them doesn’t necessarily mean agreeing with them and this usually causes a fair amount of conflict. When I […]
If your discipline is going to be effective it is very important that you deal with situations when they occur.
Sometimes parents believe that their children will somehow magically correct themselves. Not likely!
What makes discipline effective is its predictability. When a child can anticipate what will happen before it does it teaches them two things. The […]
The most effective discipline plans are proactive not reactive.
What this means is that the worst time to come up with a discipline strategy is when you’re angry.
Why is this? Because we don’t do our best thinking when we are angry. Parents tend to give consequences that are not easily enforceable when they are angry. Even […]
To many parents discipline means punishment and this sets in motion an internal reaction usually connected to the role that punishment played in their childhood.
Also, to many parents discipline is a way to control their child’s behavior. Unfortunately, that’s exactly what discipline becomes in their family, a continuous control battle.
Effective discipline is not primarily about […]
Dr. Greenfield discusses Abused and At-Risk Youth and Why Parenting Skills Are Important.
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November 7, 2012
When I suggest to parents that allowance is a very effective parenting tool they frequently respond that they don’t believe they should give their children money for nothing.
After further inquiry about how their children get money or things, it is usually revealed that the parent decides if the child gets what they are requesting. The […]
One of the most important parenting tools is the assignment of chores.
Assigning chores gives many important messages to your child. The first is that they are an important member of the family. The chores lets them know that being a member of the family is about giving and getting. It also lets them know that […]
The holiday season always brings a line of disappointed, dismayed and frustrated parents to my office.
The issue? Gift giving!
Many parents see the holidays and birthdays as an opportunity to create happiness for their child. There’s nothing wrong in that, right?
Don’t get me wrong, I believe that there would be something terribly wrong if parents didn’t […]